I’d like to share some ideas on a better and more EVOLVED way to love. I was a therapist for fifteen years; helping men and women develop healthier relationships. I later founded You Evolving Now Social Clubs. This club, (based in Berks County, Pa) is a worldwide movement of positivity, healthy living, and life-enrichment; allowing men and women to be their best selves in all roles we play.
I have developed two quotes that guide my relationships. “Be careful not to Love lazily”. Many of us will give love based on the way we like to receive love. There are several ways love is expressed; some of us like words of affection, touch, time spent, etc. How do you like your partner, children, siblings, parents to show love to you? Chances are, the way you like to receive love is the way you will return it. Trouble in relationships tend to ensue as people may want and show love in different ways; receiving love in a way hard for you to accept or easiest for you to give. How do you show love to those you care about? How would you like your partner, parents, siblings, friends to show love to you? Do you know your partner’s answer? Your kid’s?
My second quote to live by; “You can’t go out and talk badly about your partner all day; then come home and love them.” Many men and women will gravitate toward negativity, surface level conversation, and general complaints about the weather, their job, and their relationships. As you think, you will feel, act, then do. Therefore, it becomes extremely difficult to think poorly of your partner, talk negatively about your partner, then return home and show love. Of course, we all have days when we don’t like our significant other very much! When in a negative mind-set or rough relationship patch, it’s imperative to find the right person to talk with and have a discussion with the purpose of EVOLVING as an individual.
Realize, I said speak with the right person, not EVERY person you come in contact with! Are you selecting a person that knows both you and your partner for the good people you are? Are you selecting a person that will hold YOU accountable and provide ways to heal and move forward? Or, are you seeking a Bobble-head to agree with you, condemn your partner, tell you that you are right, and give potentially damaging advice?
These are simply few reasons why our site and social club Y.E.N. began. My mission was to create an environment where men and women could escape negativity and EVOLVE. Many of us with enjoy time and a night out with friends; coming home relieved but not better. Many of us are busy; let’s focus on being better not just busy! It’s important for men and women to care for themselves and continue to grow as individuals in order to be their best selves within relationships. Our monthly Forums and Monthly Fun Community events are just a piece of what we offer. I welcome you to EVOLVE with us and grow with our daily motivation, weekly inspiration, and monthly life enrichment! Happy EVOLVING!
